February 2012
154 posts
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#Occupyvday
So completely overwhelmed and grateful for all the coverage Occupy Valentine’s day received. It appears many thousands of people are frustrated by the narrow ways we are expected to give and receive love. Thanks to everyone that participated and please keep sending in your stories. The pressure to live and love a certain way, while most poignant on Valentine’s Day, impacts our lives...
Happy Not-Valentines Day
My boyfriend and I celebrate being together on Feb 16th, because this is a date that’s significant to us, not an arbitrary day that originates from the callendar of a religion neither of us follows, and that has become associated with consumerism in all its tacky forms.
Happy Not-Valentines day everyone! I loved reading all the interesting takes on Occupying Valentines Day, and I wish...
not alone!
Like minds, hallelujiah. I was beginning to think i was just a lonely cynic… http://ziaria.blogspot.com/2010/10/valentines-day.html
Love what you do...
The best gift for Vday (well a day after) is to receive photos of children using a library we help to build in a community I love. To know the projects you’ve done with passion and great effort have been more successful that you thought. That is what real love is, love for what you do.
Who needs a boyfriend when you have great friends...
I’ve been casually dating a guy for several months now. Didn’t hear a peep from him on Valentines Day. Didn’t expect to. But I was pleasantly surprised to have a lovely Valentines Day with two of my best guy friends. One of them had scored free tickets to an awesome modern dance show. So the three of us had dinner, drinks and a fun night out. I don’t need a boyfriend...
It's sex & chocolate time
So once again St Valentine’s day is upon us. A day to tell your loved one how much you care. A day to express the joy your relationship brings. A day to gaze lovingly into each others eyes and whisper sweet nothings in each others ears (OK that calls for a fair bit of anatomical flexibility, but work with me here). In short, a day of lurve.
Or for some, a day to get out the leather shorts and...
What are your plans for Valentine's Day? Poll...
Yeah, Valentine’s Day can go fuck itself! :)
Alternative
Among other contrarian-type things (St. V’s has always been a more family-oriented holiday, in my house, with an emphasis on creativity over consumerism), I like to put out a list or host a showing of a decidedly not traditional Valentine’s Day movie.
I look for movies that explore the meaning of love, the suffering that accompanies real love, or the numerous (not always romantic!)...
On Poly
My boyfriend is probably at home snuggling with his wife, puppy, and two cats right now…and I’ll join them in the cuddles this weekend, but right now I happen to be too busy baking a bunch of heart-shaped brownies and drinking a bunch of delicious wine!
Best Valentine's Day EVER!!!
…because the only person I worried about having a great day was me! No stress, just bliss.
Poly V-Day
Valentine’s Day hits today, on a Tuesday, so, meet-ups and love were and are given on the weekends.
I hung out with my partner V last weekend. We made pancakes and laid around napping. It was truly beautiful, and required no valentine’s day objects: no chocolate, no roses, no stuffed animals, nothing out of the usual, and yet it was one of the most beautiful weekends I’ve ever...
A Kiss for Valentine’s Day
For the believing Ladies: "Shit Christian Guys...
Ladies. You needed this. We needed this. For a laugh, a little vindication, and some hope.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vXeQ6BcmVCU
Greek Love!
My fraternity decided that since the ladies in sororities on our campus who were not going to be celebrating Valentine’s day with boyfriends were all having dinners together, we got together and made cheesy cards and signed them all, then went out and bought roses for every house. We’re delivering them all in small groups to each sorority, just to let them know that even without...
I seek out meaningful, challenging, and loving interactions each day and in all aspects of my life! But tonight i will be romancing my current love: my thesis.
Forget the 1% - Celebrate the 99%
Today I am celebrating the 99% of myself that is content being my own Valentine! And let me tell you -my valentine is sweet, sexy, and smart! This is not the day to focus on the 1% !! OccupyValentinesDay!
Occupied by "love" in an introductory w&gs course →
A feminist teacher talks love with her students. And then blogs about it, of course.
(via emilywalks)
I’ve had my share of mopey Valentine’s, bemoaning a bad relationship or wishing I had a good one. This year I’ll celebrate with a homemade dinner with my boyfriend (he’s cooking, yay). But I spent the first part of the day volunteering in an office that helps people apply for temporary restraining orders. It’s always a sobering reality check to get out of my academic...
the other valentine
I met probably the most influential man in my life 13 years ago today. I was and still am completely crazy about him. Together we were WONDERFUL, together we were MISERABLE, for 10 years, off and on. I decided I couldn’t wait for him anymore after that.
I married someone else recently, who I care very much about. He is wonderful, was willing to give me a child and capable of giving me...
Occupy V-Day: The Greatest Love Of All →
Excerpt:
Throughout our entire lives, we’re asked to show off, compete, and do for others so long as we can something in return. Our daily interactions are a commodity, the things we do an investment on some personal gain. Valentine’s Day promotions encourage those of us with no root to cling onto hopes unfounded. What might have once been an innocent day to demonstrate and celebrate...
Unrealized Love is Finally Appreciated
I woke up unnecessarily warm and fuzzy this morning. Then I thought about the wonderful weekend I had with great friends and soon to be great friends. Then I realized it was V-day, and thought, “What a great V-day”, in a long time. No, I didn’t get a boyfriend, I just understood and appreciated the love that surrounds me <3
This is Valentine's Day Romance I can get behind
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xP8uJ3YU974&feature=player_embedded
As a librarian, I have a lot of love for the British Museum and all its amazing holdings. A love of literature will last a lifetime. xx sg
10 Quotes on LOVE in its Many Forms
Two sea otters that have each other’s back.
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This tumblr made me think about recent quotes from all across the web that are reflections on love and relationships — in all their complexity and forms. To me, at its base level, love is simply about having each other’s back. Others have opined even further on self-love, love and relationships, love and career, and love...
Glitter Tongue: queer love poems
Glitter Tongue is an online collection of love poems by queer and trans poets. This is our anti-Hallmark, our queer Valentine!
A Year Without Dead Flowers
This Valentine’s Day, I’m Occupying the space between single and “having that special someone.” I’m casually seeing a couple of people and I’m planning on spending this evening cooking up dinner with close friends and maybe curling up on the couch with a movie. And this year, I think I’m happier and more surrounded by joyous love than any year where I...
The Redfox that stole my Heart
I wish I could accept Valentines day whole heartedly. I like the idea of devoting one day entirely to the person that I love but I don’t like feeling that I have to or that somehow if Valentines isn’t special then our love is lacking. I tell myself each year that I’m going to give you a perfect Valentines day but on a different day, that way we don’t buy into the...
Occupy V-day with science →
I occupy V-day by bring a little fact to the fiction behind this day.
My kitty cat has been there through thick and thin; through my parents divorce to many break ups. She helps me realize what is important to me—especially on valentines day. We’ll occupy today together and snuggle the night away <3
Occupying V-day like an ace
I got myself candy and cookies. Later, I’m going to do some gaming with my best friend. Because sweets and gaming are better than transactional models of sex!
I have a boyfriend. He lives 258 miles away. If I want to see him, I have to fly there. I’m still boycotting Vday. Not because I’m sad I won’t be with him today, but because it is small and shallow to have a single day you show someone you love them. Do it EVERY day, for Pete’s sake, or once a month. Once a year? One day in 365 to tell that person how important they are?...
How I feel about today
I am in love with the sexiest, coolest, smartest, most creative, intense, determined, spiritual and passionate person I know.. and I’m looking at him in the mirror right now. I will not be in love with anyone else until I find an equal. No one else will do. I will not settle. No one has gotten me in all my time in this world, and its fine. Someone out there will get me someday. And I will...
#occupyvday with #femblogalts
Last week, a group of feminists and gender justice supporters on Twitter compiled an amazing list of alternatives to the big feminist blogs. To #occupyvday, I’ve posted this roundup of blogs we LOVE.
Do Feminist Dating Messages Apply to Queer Dating?
the only Valentine's Day ever that wasn't crap
I’ve always managed to have miserable Valentine’s Days, single or attached. I told myself I didn’t care but stewed anyway. That’s the power of cultural pressure, isn’t it?
Except for two years ago. Two years ago one of my dearest friends was getting divorced and so for Christmas I bought her a hockey ticket. The game was on February 14th, so that instead of dreading...
I just want to wish my boyfriend and his other girlfriend a happy valentine’s!
I refuse to be made to feel guilty for not buying my partner an over-priced, poorly-made, badly-designed, unattractive, reuctivist card, in which are printed someone else’s over-simple, trite thoughts. Instead, I’m gonna go on trying to do right by us and trying to fathom out the difficult, complicated mess that is two independent and strong-minded people loving each other. Just like I...
Well, I guess it’s pretty clear that Valentine’s day is geared toward people that aren’t anywhere near as cynical or as damaged or as fucked up as me. But I have to ask, where’s our freaking holiday? I guess those of us made to feel inadequate for not finding that special someone through traditional means like College hazings or watching Eagles tribute bands rock out at the local watering hole, we...
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Love Letters
I’m spending my single man’s Valentine’s Day drafting advocacy letters for endangered species- because I have all kinds of love to share.
All I Want for Valentine’s Day is an End to...
Authentic love is powerfully expressed through the creation of social justice. When we dare to challenge ritualistic consumerism and inequality, our celebration of intimacy becomes revolutionary. This Valentine’s Day, my partner and I will be connecting for soulful conversation over cups of French-roasted coffee and setting aside a donation for our local domestic violence shelter.
It is because...
Greening Valentines Day and preventing a total...
Not everyone is into Valentines Day… be that as it may.. one doesn’t have to spend large unneseccary mad cash on showing someone that you love them. think of the impact of valentines day on the planet before you buy that cheesy rose or mass produced un-yummy choloate heart! check out www.ecocred.me for more green tips if you abolutely have to be cheesy on valentines day!
As I sit in my driveway after a long day at school, I listen to Best Coast - “When I’m With You”, and am reminded of my summer love. I was dating this doctor who broke my heart, we had fun and experienced everything Detroit had to offer two lovers. That relationship taught me that titles meant nothing and I should appreciate the times instead of stressing out over everything at...
Occupying the Romantic Industrial Complex
Well, it’s the economy, stupid—except you’re not stupid. There is a romantic-industrial complex that nets billions of dollars from Valentine’s Day and weddings, and it needs you to “buy into” outdated ideas of love and marriage. The more you express your love through candies, chocolates, diamonds, rentals and registries, the more the RIC makes! Valentine’s Day is only one manifestation of the...
occupy valentine's day with self-love
No woman who chooses to be self-loving ever regrets her choice. Self-love brings her greater power and freedom. It improves her relationships with everyone. But most especially it allows her to live in community with other women, to stand in solidarity and sisterhood…While the self-loving woman may encounter more conflict, she has the skill to handle difficulties that come her way. ...
Every Valentine’s day I give out little cards and candy to all my friends. I love how it brightens everyone’s day. February is never a fun month, far away from any other holidays, and the weather is awful most places. I like to give people a reason to smile, and thats what I think Valentine’s day is for. #occupyvday
V-Day is love day
I like to think of Valentines day as a day you get to share your love with others. Last year Valentines day was in the midst of midterms when everyone is stressed out, so i made brownies with a friend and went to all the dorms and apartments of all the friends I love to hand deliver fresh baked brownies to show them my love for them :)