February 2013
17 posts
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“To return to love, to get the love we always wanted but never had, to have the...”
– —bell hooks
Happy Valentine’s Day, I Hate You
For almost as long as Valentine’s Day has been an insufferably sappy day celebrating romantic love, it’s also been a day for telling everyone else exactly how much you don’t love them—with a Vinegar Valentine sent anonymously via snail mail.
“You could send them to your neighbors, friends, or enemies. You could send them to your schoolteacher, your boss, or people whose advances you wanted to...
Occupying Valentine's Day since the 1900s
occupyvday:
Suffragettes have been occupying V-Day for more than 100 years. Via eBay
January 2013
2 posts
September 2012
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It's National Singles Week! →
A NEW KIND OF VALENTINE’S DAY ONLY A WEEK? #notreally
August 2012
3 posts
“There is no retreating from the hookup culture to an earlier age, when a young...”
– All I wanna do is a zoom zoom.
Ten Very Good Reasons You Aren't Married Yet
This is an excerpt from a piece I wrote on Jezebel a few months ago in response to Tracy MacMillan’s sexist manifesto blaming ladies for their non-hitched status.
1. You are focused on your career.
And you are not going to apologize for it. Some people call this being a “bitch,” because you are a lady and you have a job that you might be more focused on than smiling pretty and...
Hello V-Day Occupiers!
Hello V-day occupiers!
Haven’t been updating this much, but will start posting relevant articles about the deteriorating state of traditional romance and all the new cool ways people are thinking about love.
Read anything good lately?
May 2012
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February 2012
154 posts
Love this! I write for a company, strategic Revolution, and I just wrote about your page for our site. love it! :)
#Occupyvday
So completely overwhelmed and grateful for all the coverage Occupy Valentine’s day received. It appears many thousands of people are frustrated by the narrow ways we are expected to give and receive love. Thanks to everyone that participated and please keep sending in your stories. The pressure to live and love a certain way, while most poignant on Valentine’s Day, impacts our lives...
Happy Not-Valentines Day
My boyfriend and I celebrate being together on Feb 16th, because this is a date that’s significant to us, not an arbitrary day that originates from the callendar of a religion neither of us follows, and that has become associated with consumerism in all its tacky forms.
Happy Not-Valentines day everyone! I loved reading all the interesting takes on Occupying Valentines Day, and I wish...
not alone!
Like minds, hallelujiah. I was beginning to think i was just a lonely cynic… http://ziaria.blogspot.com/2010/10/valentines-day.html
Love what you do...
The best gift for Vday (well a day after) is to receive photos of children using a library we help to build in a community I love. To know the projects you’ve done with passion and great effort have been more successful that you thought. That is what real love is, love for what you do.
Who needs a boyfriend when you have great friends...
I’ve been casually dating a guy for several months now. Didn’t hear a peep from him on Valentines Day. Didn’t expect to. But I was pleasantly surprised to have a lovely Valentines Day with two of my best guy friends. One of them had scored free tickets to an awesome modern dance show. So the three of us had dinner, drinks and a fun night out. I don’t need a boyfriend...
It's sex & chocolate time
So once again St Valentine’s day is upon us. A day to tell your loved one how much you care. A day to express the joy your relationship brings. A day to gaze lovingly into each others eyes and whisper sweet nothings in each others ears (OK that calls for a fair bit of anatomical flexibility, but work with me here). In short, a day of lurve.
Or for some, a day to get out the leather shorts and...
What are your plans for Valentine's Day? Poll...
Yeah, Valentine’s Day can go fuck itself! :)
Alternative
Among other contrarian-type things (St. V’s has always been a more family-oriented holiday, in my house, with an emphasis on creativity over consumerism), I like to put out a list or host a showing of a decidedly not traditional Valentine’s Day movie.
I look for movies that explore the meaning of love, the suffering that accompanies real love, or the numerous (not always romantic!)...
On Poly
My boyfriend is probably at home snuggling with his wife, puppy, and two cats right now…and I’ll join them in the cuddles this weekend, but right now I happen to be too busy baking a bunch of heart-shaped brownies and drinking a bunch of delicious wine!
Best Valentine's Day EVER!!!
…because the only person I worried about having a great day was me! No stress, just bliss.
Poly V-Day
Valentine’s Day hits today, on a Tuesday, so, meet-ups and love were and are given on the weekends.
I hung out with my partner V last weekend. We made pancakes and laid around napping. It was truly beautiful, and required no valentine’s day objects: no chocolate, no roses, no stuffed animals, nothing out of the usual, and yet it was one of the most beautiful weekends I’ve ever...
A Kiss for Valentine’s Day
For the believing Ladies: "Shit Christian Guys...
Ladies. You needed this. We needed this. For a laugh, a little vindication, and some hope.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vXeQ6BcmVCU
Greek Love!
My fraternity decided that since the ladies in sororities on our campus who were not going to be celebrating Valentine’s day with boyfriends were all having dinners together, we got together and made cheesy cards and signed them all, then went out and bought roses for every house. We’re delivering them all in small groups to each sorority, just to let them know that even without...
I seek out meaningful, challenging, and loving interactions each day and in all aspects of my life! But tonight i will be romancing my current love: my thesis.
Forget the 1% - Celebrate the 99%
Today I am celebrating the 99% of myself that is content being my own Valentine! And let me tell you -my valentine is sweet, sexy, and smart! This is not the day to focus on the 1% !! OccupyValentinesDay!
Occupied by "love" in an introductory w&gs course →
A feminist teacher talks love with her students. And then blogs about it, of course.
(via emilywalks)
I’ve had my share of mopey Valentine’s, bemoaning a bad relationship or wishing I had a good one. This year I’ll celebrate with a homemade dinner with my boyfriend (he’s cooking, yay). But I spent the first part of the day volunteering in an office that helps people apply for temporary restraining orders. It’s always a sobering reality check to get out of my academic...
the other valentine
I met probably the most influential man in my life 13 years ago today. I was and still am completely crazy about him. Together we were WONDERFUL, together we were MISERABLE, for 10 years, off and on. I decided I couldn’t wait for him anymore after that.
I married someone else recently, who I care very much about. He is wonderful, was willing to give me a child and capable of giving me...
Occupy V-Day: The Greatest Love Of All →
Excerpt:
Throughout our entire lives, we’re asked to show off, compete, and do for others so long as we can something in return. Our daily interactions are a commodity, the things we do an investment on some personal gain. Valentine’s Day promotions encourage those of us with no root to cling onto hopes unfounded. What might have once been an innocent day to demonstrate and celebrate...
Unrealized Love is Finally Appreciated
I woke up unnecessarily warm and fuzzy this morning. Then I thought about the wonderful weekend I had with great friends and soon to be great friends. Then I realized it was V-day, and thought, “What a great V-day”, in a long time. No, I didn’t get a boyfriend, I just understood and appreciated the love that surrounds me <3
This is Valentine's Day Romance I can get behind
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xP8uJ3YU974&feature=player_embedded
As a librarian, I have a lot of love for the British Museum and all its amazing holdings. A love of literature will last a lifetime. xx sg
10 Quotes on LOVE in its Many Forms
Two sea otters that have each other’s back.
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This tumblr made me think about recent quotes from all across the web that are reflections on love and relationships — in all their complexity and forms. To me, at its base level, love is simply about having each other’s back. Others have opined even further on self-love, love and relationships, love and career, and love...
